How do you deal with your children and their behavior problem? Every parents take different approach to teach their kids such as punishment, correction, and guidance.
In most cases, many parents are relying on punishment to correct their children 's behavior problems such as yelling, scolding, calling their kids names, or using physical punishment. However, punishment is not the best way to discipline your kids, and do you know why?
If you are using punishment to discipline your child, you are actually using an inappropriate punishment. It is define as something that is harsh and unreasonable, violent and harmful. Please note that screaming, belittling, ridiculing, and isolating are also a type of inappropriate punishment. If you use inappropriate punishment, there is a good chance that your kids will respond with a lot of unpleasant behavior such as yelling, swearing, or mumbling under their breath and walking away. In result, the child will not learn what they should do to avoid trouble in the future.
Inappropriate punishment will also affect the way children think about themselves, and it will totally harm the child's development. In addition, punishment will only damage relationship between parents and their kids, because children will want to avoid their parents altogether which you will not want to see this happen between you and your child.
So, what can you do in order to discipline your child? It is this...
Learn the appropriate teaching, because it is a way that could provide a positive and effective way to approach to problem behavior of your kids.
So, what is appropriate teaching? It is this...
1. Specific - you need to let your kids know exactly what they do right or wrong
2. Responsive - you need to make your children understand the relationship between what they do and what happens as a result of their actions
3. Concrete - you need to guide your kids by giving them a clear examples of how to improve in the future
4. Positive - try to help your children to learn self-discipline
5. Interactive - you must give your kids a chance to show what they have learned, because parent is acting an active part of the learning process.
6. Informative - parent is acting as a teacher or coach to provide useful information that helps the children to solve problems.
Appropriate teaching is an effective way that helps kids to build a strong self-confidence, and the first thing that a parent needs to do is to get along well with the child and gives them the skills to make their own decisions. Remember that appropriate teaching is a technique that tell kinds what they did right and why they should continue it, or what they did wrong and how to correct it.
Warning: Do not neglect the above tips for discipline your child with an effective way.
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